My husband works nights. He comes home anytime after 7am. From 7am to 11:45am he has the choice to sleep (which he SHOULD), or do whatever. If it is to hunt, mow the lawn or any other thing, he does. He then picks up our two kids from daycare, eats lunch and they all sleep. I work 7am-3:30pm. If I go to the gym after work, I’m home by 5:30. If I dont, I’m home by 4:15. From 4/5pm to 7pm I make supper if he didnt already, eat, clean up, pack the kids lunch for the next day, get them bathed, clothes set out for the next day, get my clothes ready and ironed for the next day. My husband gets a shower and is in bed by 7pm. After 7 I am limited to what I can do b/c of keeping quiet. Weeknights I have the kids. Weekends I have them. My husband hunts a LOT. If it isnt deer, turkey, bear, squirrel, etc. he also fishes and ice fishes. He does this from before the sun comes up to dark. If I go somewhere, I take the kids or dont go until he comes home. I dont have any hobbies, if I did, I couldnt. I love my kids and I enjoy being with them ALL the time. They are my life and I dont like to “pond” them off to family, etc. However, I’m under 35 and have very little friends. None that I go and do things with. All are single or no kids and rather go to a club or to a bar which I can never do. I have very little family and those that are close I dont trust them to have my kids overnight or alone. I would like to have a friend to do things with but I honestly dont have extra time in my very busy life to go away or out if I work full time, have two kids and my weekends are to run the arrands, groceries, etc. that they would be upset if I were to cancel or cant go out, etc.
I told my husband I only have 2-3 hours a night weekdays and maybe an afternoon Sundays and dont have a hobby, plans, etc. but it is to be assumed he hunts, etc. that I am confined to home with the kids. When he comes home (tired of a full day out) he sleeps so the kids dont see him much.
I get depressed that I am so young and do nothing. I work and sleep. If I could go out all the time and leave my kids with family, I wont do. I guess I’m just stressed?!? I told him it is all about him and when do I have MY time. He says what would I do? Well, I cant say for sure, if it were a sale at a store, I’d shop, if it were to just go away and do whatever myself to get a break from the stress, etc. but to him, he will tell me to go Sat. evening or Sunday, etc. and then I take the kids whereever so he can do outside work Sundays.
Am I wrong for telling him its all about him and I never have time for me? (Sorry for the book but wanted to explain so you knew what I meant)
